|Patriarchal Families and National Wars|
|“Let me have a war, say I: It exceeds peace as far as day does night”|
– William Shakespeare, Coriolanus
The evolution of the family from the medieval Killer Mother-dominated gynarchy to the Punishing Patriarchal-dominated nuclear family took place during the sixteenth to eighteenth centuries. Because mothers began to abuse their children somewhat less by the sixteenth century, men could grow up less afraid of females, and need not “fear approaching the kitchen full of women,” so fathers stopped living in separate quarters and reduced their having sex with concubines and established for the first time constant patriarchal dominance of wives and children. Paternal love was still missing, but fathers spent much more time with their wives and children, beating and torturing them daily but also eating meals with them and teaching them that fathers are divinely chosen to rule the family and the nation. (The historical connections between paternal dominance and national dominance are detailed by psychohistorian Christian Lackner.)1
MATERNAL INFANTICIDE CONTINUES INTO MODERN NATIONS
That sending one’s newborn to what were called “killing nurses”12 was equivalent to infanticide is proven by studies showing as high as 80 percent of wetnursed French children died during the nineteenth century and by census figures showing less than ten percent of the children born in Paris were nursed by their own mothers, the rest being picked up by child peddlers who strapped them into carts “like sardines” and carried them off without food to distant peasant families.13 Fathers too backed the sending of newborn to wetnurses, especially since it was believed that nursing mothers should not have sexual intercourse because it spoiled her milk.14 After they were sent out to a wetnurse, the parents “seldom inquired about the survival of their infants.”15 Wetnursing “was so pervasive among all classes that cities like Paris and Lyon literally became cities without babies.”16 Since the wetnurses had to make a living, they tightly swaddled the babies and hung them on a peg in the kitchen while they worked in the fields. When children were returned in a few years from a wetnurse, mothers are regularly reported as saying things like “What have you brought me here! This goggle-eyed, splatter-faced, gabbart-mouthed wretch is not my child! Take her away!.”17 John Locke praised a mother who when she first saw her daughter returned from a wetnurse was “forced to whip her little daughter eight times successively the same morning upon coming home from Nurse before she could master her stubbornness.”18
SWADDLING OF CHILDREN IN MODERN NATIONS
HOW FATHERS RULED THE PATRIARCHAL FAMILY BY BEATING
This need to hit babies for discipline still is often found in England—Tony Blair recently admitted on television that he hit his one-year-old baby “to discipline him,” explaining that “I had to hit him, because he could not talk.”37 In patriarchal families it was often claimed that “the father’s task is to teach children to obey their mothers,” but more often it was instant obedience to the father that was the goal of his beatings.38 Both wives and children were treated by fathers as slaves. Fathers came out of their own abusive childhoods fearing they were not really men. Until the nineteenth century boys were dressed like girls in long gowns and petticoats until age six. Men feared that women would again dominate them like their mothers did, and so they experienced both their relationship with their children and spouses as a “masculinity crisis” that required them to demonstrate their power, their “toughness”—just as going to war was a masculinity mask that allowed men to “display our firmness” with a “stiffening of the national will.”39 As Kant declared, wars are needed because “prolonged peace favors effeminacy.”40
Early American colonists “enacted ‘stubborn child laws,’ which gave fathers the right to kill children who were beyond their ability to control.”41 Early Protestants “rushed to impose patriarchal rule in the home and ‘break the will’ of the child.”42 Beatings in the early modern period were usually done with instruments: whips, shovels, canes, iron rods, cat-o’-nine tails and razor straps. Only by the 1870s did it for the first time become unlawful in the U.S. to beat your wife.43 It is still lawful 130 years later to beat your children in most nations around the world, including the U.S.44
Fig. 10-1: Paternal Dominance
It became an issue in England by the eighteenth century what to call your spouse: the adoption of first names between spouses rather than “Sir” and “Madam” was practiced for the first time. Saying “I love you” was first allowed, and the term “companionate marriage” was introduced as a possibility.50 Although upper-class husbands still kept mistresses and lower-class men still visited prostitutes regularly, during the late eighteenth century wives began to be less indifferent to the adulteries of their husbands.51 Fathers were instructed “not to act in anger” when beating their children and wives, and should precede their blows with a clear explanation of their offence and God’s opposition to their behavior.52 Even children of nobility were beaten daily. Louis XIII was “beaten mercilessly on waking in the morning. He was beaten on the buttocks by his nurse with a birch or a switch. His father whipped him himself when in a rage.”53 Children were also regularly beaten by their teachers, since it was believed that “fear is good for putting the child in the mood to hear and to understand. A child cannot quickly forget what he has learned in fear.”54 A nineteenth-century teacher described classes of the time: “Whoever taught the children to read would grab their shirts about the shoulders, then hold the book in one hand, the rod in the other, ready to flail away at the slightest oversight.”55 British schools were particularly famous for their “erotic flagellation” beatings where “a teacher forces students to unbutton their trousers, push them down, show everything and receive the whip in the middle of the class.”56 One German teacher bragged he had given “911,527 strokes with the stick, 124,000 lashes with the whip, and 136,715 slaps with the hand.”57
It is not until late in the nineteenth century, with the advent of the socializing mode of childrearing, that Elizabeth Pleck, in her massive study of American family violence, could find a few parents who did not hit their children.58 Mothers in nineteenth-century America were urged by John Abbott to “smile, care and reward their children, but when kindness fails, let not the mother hesitate for a moment to punish as severely as is necessary.”59 In America and Britain recently, the majority of children are still hit in their early years, with mothers doing the hitting far more often than fathers.60 By 1992, over 90 percent of Americans hit their young children, dropping to 57 percent by 1999.61 Over twenty other nations have recently passed laws outlawing the hitting of children, even by parents.
Family historians carefully record all the daily beatings and tortures, but then conclude like Colin Heywood in his book A History of Childhood: “Historians have come to the conclusion that practices that appear abusive today, such as repeated whippings, were motivate by love.”62 Other family historians have simply denied that what they repeatedly discovered was representative. As Alan Valentine concluded after examining 600 years of letters from fathers to sons without finding a single piece of evidence of warmth or empathy: “Doubtless an infinite number of fathers have written to their sons letters that would warm and lift our hearts, if we only could find them. The happiest fathers leave no history…”63
Whippings came, of course, from what parents felt was a moral necessity to form their character, not only from anger: “If the mother could not spare the time to beat her child she could hire a ‘professional flagellant’ who advertised their child-beating services in newspaper ads; or she could hire a ‘guarde-de-ville to whip her three children once a week, naughty or not.’”64 It is no surprise that most people agreed that the dominant personality type in early modern times was the depressive, and literature from Burton’s Anatomy of Melancholy to Shakespeare’s Hamlet told how “melancholy is the malaise of the age.”65
What I call “intrusive mode” parents actually felt closer to their children than previous mode parents. Rather than mostly rejection they convey to their children the message that “You are bad, and I must beat you, but if you admit it and subject your inner life to total control by me I will allow you to feel closer to me.”66 In paternal families both wives and children were allowed for the first time to eat at the same table as their fathers, rather than just being made to wait upon them as in earlier periods. Family dinners were occasions for family prayer, where fathers reviewed at length the sins of each of his children.
Fathers routinely beat their wives until well into the twentieth century even in more advanced nations. Jean Bodin spoke of “the husband’s power over the wife as the source and origin of every human society.”67 The wives were brought up to expect being beaten without complaining. As the mother in Little Women puts it, “I am angry nearly every day of my life, but I have learned not to show it.” John Wesley told wives they must constantly think “My husband is my superior; he has the right to rule over me. God has given it to him.”68 Coontz convincingly shows that only by the late nineteenth century were girls encouraged to marry for intimacy rather than for obedience.69 Some girls were given education earlier than this, but not until the late nineteenth century were most females taught to read more than a few psalms and a bit of Holly Scripture.70 In fact most females were barred from regular attendance in grammar schools and universities in European nations until well into the nineteenth century.71 The first public elementary schools in England were in 1833, and only in 1880 was attendance compulsory.72 Nineteenth century books for girls taught: “You must submit yourselves to your husbands as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the Church.”73 In schools girls were mainly taught “wife-work”—how to do housekeeping and weaving, how to “keep her place”, and how to avoid making her spouse feel less clever than her.74 The father’s main task was to teach his boys that “to become a man, he must shift his attachment away from his mother, and eventually learns to disparage qualities that are feminine.”75
THE UBIQUITY OF SEXUAL ASSAULT OF CHILDREN
Family beds were the usual practice everywhere in the world until well into the nineteenth century, so children were always in some measure part of parental intercourse. When in 1908 incest was finally made a criminal offense in England, it was considered a minor felony, rarely prosecuted.83 In addition, the widespread practice of parents choosing the spouses of their little girls was in fact a very popular form of sexual abuse, since forcing them to marry a stranger at ages 10-12 was actually rape (most U.S. states until the end of the nineteenth century set the age of legal marriage at 10-12.)84 Fathers in the past were the main perpetrators of rape. The figure given by Debbie Taylor that today over 100 million young girls are “being raped by adult men—usually their fathers—often day after day, year in, year out”85 is staggering, but is dwarfed by the billions of children raped and otherwise sexually molested around the world over the past few centuries.
The sexual abuse of children is less motivated by erotic desires than by the need to assault, to hurt, to dominate. For instance, gang rapes of girls were commonly considered “public performances,” and thought by others to be “harmless initiation rites.”86 Parents freely allowed and even encouraged servants, nursemaids, nannies and teachers to use their children sexually. Louis XIII’s entire court would sometimes line up at his bed and “kiss his cock.”87 The King and Queen and their servants would undress him and his sister and bring them naked in bed for sexual games, so that Louis could accurately report, “Mercier has a cunt as big as that,” showing his two fists, saying “there’s a lot of water inside.“88 Many schools allowed the rape of boys, as in British public schools into the nineteenth century where “the rape of boys with the full knowledge and collusion, even the approval, of their elders…where older boys and even teachers had younger boys as their ‘bitches’ to use sexually.”89 Most of child raping was done with the collusion of parents: mothers rented out rooms to boarders and offered their daughters to sleep with them, children were loaned to overnight guests as an act of hospitality, children in London were sent out by the thousands by their mothers onto the streets as prostitutes, and children as young as six were openly offered for sale and sexual use by public advertisements in most cities of Europe.”90 Doctors well into the nineteenth century thought having sexual intercourse with three-year-old girls was a good idea because it was “instructive to familiarize them with carnal matters…”91 As Anna Clark puts it, “men seemed to regard rape as a trivial issue.”92 Even twentieth-century sexologists considered pederasty positively: “There is no shame in being a pederast or a rapist if one is satisfied” (Edwards and Masters); “It is difficult to understand why a child should be disturbed at having its genitalia touched” (Kinsey); “incest can be a satisfying and enriching experience.” (Pomeroy)93
Physicians were long familiar with young children with venereal diseases. “Most resisted making any explicit connection between venereal diseases in children and sexual contact with adults, even when the disease existed in the immediate family.”94 Not until psychohistorian Karen Taylor analyzed hundreds of the medical journals of nineteenth-century physicians and showed that even though the physicians assumed innocent causes for the children’s venereal diseases there had to be intimate direct sexual contact with the diseased genital area of the adult (usually the father), so that she strongly concluded that the children with venereal disease were in fact “victims of sexual abuse.”95 The belief that “one could cure venereal disease” by means of sexual intercourse with children”96 was of course one of the main underlying motivations for the frequency of paternal abuse, in addition to the need of fathers to prove their masculinity.
ADVANCING FROM MONARCHICAL STATES TO DEMOCRATIC NATIONS
Even when Kings shared power with a parliament, as in England, “the king’s prerogative was indisputable in matters involving war and peace.”102 Kings were said to have two bodies, “like the two sexes of a hermaphrodite,” combining the domination alters in the brains of their subjects of both mother and father. Soldiers are told by kings to “fight for la patria [feminine noun] and suffer even death for her.”103 Where there were early royal parliaments, they addressed their humble petitions to the king, but he would then end the matter by saying yes or no. Monarchs were free to inflict their grandiosity upon both subjects and enemies, experiencing a dopamine high and claiming they had to “cleanse them of their evils” as their parents cleansed them of evil. Homicide rates plunged when modern states began imposing their police power, but deaths by the state nevertheless increased dramatically as wars became far more deadly, with massive conscripted armies replacing hired mercenaries and gunpowder replacing swords.104
Memories of maternal infanticide nevertheless remained and were re-experienced during periodic witchcraft epidemics, where women were regularly addressed as “Monstrous Mothers”105 and young girls had “convulsive fits” in courts “as the Devil entered them”106 while they switched into their memories of their mothers’ beatings as “ghosts from the nursery.” Witches were accused of doing the things mothers actually did: “witches suffocate very small children or kill them by thrusting a needle behind their ear or they snatch children from the cradle and rend them in pieces.”107 Sometimes entire villages would go into alter trances together, as when the Benandanti fantasied as they slept they fought “night battles” against witches.108
It was the developmental new strengths of the intrusive childrearing mode, not changes in “culture,” that produced the dramatic historical innovations of the Reformation, humanism and industrialism. For instance, what allowed James Watt to invent the modern steam engine was his parents’ teaching him to read and allowing him to endlessly experiment with the steam kettle for hours every day in his family kitchen, changing the world by his curiousity.109 Initially, of course, modern social relationships carried out the paternal authoritarianism of the family. If childrearing had been better, early voters would have dominated kings and early workers would have been given corporate board seats along with investors. But modern states were established under patriarchal domination principles, and industrialization gains in gross national product were constantly offset by increasingly destructive wars, as every strengthening of the fantasy of in-groups was matched by a strengthening of the fantasy of dangerous out-groups. Between 1530 and 1710 there was a ten-fold increase in the total numbers of armed forces involved in major European battles.110 As the interstate system expands in the modern period, strong states tend to fight the strong and the weak tend to fight the weak…the stronger two states are, the greater the likelihood of a fight between them.111 The common theory of historians that “territory is the most important single cause of war between states”112 is meaningless—it is like saying “schoolyard bullies usually hit those nearest to them” but never asking why they need to hit. What is more accurate is their finding that “fighting is more prevalent during periods of prosperity rather than periods of stagnation or depression,”113 which backs up my theory that wars are motivated by “growth panic” progress that triggers the re-enacting of childhood violence. In fact, no great-power wars have started during a depression in the past two centuries.114 Modelski traces the cycles of war to clusters of innovations introduced into the world, and shows how Portugal was the first pioneer of discoveries, how Britain unleashed the Industrial Revolution, and how both were very war prone during their most Progressive periods.115 When outside enemies cannot be found to start wars with, inside groups are imagined as dangerous. In democratizing Rwanda, Hutus and Tutsis were “neighbors, schoolmates, friends, even in-laws” indistinguishable from each other, but when splitting time came because of growth panic and they slaughtered over a million of their neighbors they could only say as a reason that they did it “because their noses were longer” or “they were cockroaches” or “God said he no longer wanted them.”116 Their war trance made them completely dissociated. After they chopped off the arms and heads of their friends they said, “I had been living with these people all these years. I wasn’t afraid of them. They weren’t a threat to me. But we were told they were enemies and I believed it.”117
Just as interesting is the finding that the usual methods of dealing with interstate threats—the making of alliances and the buildup of your military—are actually just provocative results of national grandiosity and lead to wars.118 The need for nations to “demonstrate our resolve” by military buildups is simply a restaging of parental “demonstrations of resolve” to use violence against their children, as nations fuse with the punishing parental alters embedded in their amygdalan fear centers. Only the emotional state of grandiosity experienced by states going into their war trances (caused by the release of dopamine and brain opiates) makes them feel invulnerable. Usually the periods before wars include wild apocalyptic group-fantasy trance episodes, like the Great Awakenings in America in 1858, when “daily gatherings of thousands of people in spontaneous prayer meetings took place, where people fell down, saw visions, and went out and destroyed their goods in preparation for the end of the world” as they “felt God-like” and were “cleansed in the fires of war.”119 In fact, the states that have the least need to go to war are the most likely to start them: “The strongest states are the most war-prone and the most likely to initiate wars.”120 The average modern nation is at war 20 percent of the time during the nineteenth century compared to pre-state societies which were almost continuously at war.121 In my previous book, The Emotional Life of Nations, I presented extensive evidence showing how modern nations regularly go to war four times a century, repeating four national group-fantasy phases: (1) innovative phase, (2) depressed phase, (3) manic phase and (4) war phase.122 The second phase, that of Depressions, takes place periodically between wars, as nations become grandiose and engage in more and more self-destructive risky ventures, convinced each time that “This time is different.”123
Modern nationalism became a religion to replace Christianity, with the French Assembly setting up actual altars to the nation like church altars, with the inscription: “The citizen is born, lives, and dies for la patrie.“124 The national flag and the national anthem became sacred replacements for the cross and for church hymns.125 Schools began to teach patriotism to the nation rather than devotion to the Lord. And new national leaders found that they could more easily increase their popularity by provoking a war than by achieving spiritual or economic gains.
NATIONS SPLIT INTO PARTIES BY CHILDREARING PSYCHOCLASS
Historians usually overlook the childrearing of Progressive and Reactionary leaders, but it isn’t difficult to trace the origin of their political policies back to their parenting experiences. In America’s last election, for instance, Progressive Barrack Obama often reported details of the love and affection of his mother and grandmother during his early years, saying “the best thing my mom taught me was empathy: making sure that you can see the world through somebody else’s eyes.”128 In stark contrast, Reactionary John McCain described his parents as beating him so hard that he often passed out as he held his breath during the beatings. He reports they punished him for holding his breath and passing out by filling the bathtub with ice cold water and throwing him in while unconscious, fully clothed.129 He says “this went on for some time until I was finally ‘cured.’ Whenever I worked myself into a tiny rage, my mother shouted to my father, ‘Get the water!’ Moments later I would find myself thrashing, wide-eyed and gasping for breath, in a tub of icy-cold water.”130 He considers this made a man of him, and it was obviously the model for him choosing to remain in North Vietnam as a prisoner and be tortured.
The “two bodies,” male and female, of the state’s Monarch become split into the two bodies of the nation. The male is the President, and he is the Punishing Father who enforces the rules, and his home in Washington has his phallic columns. The female is the Legislature, it has the only power to go to war, and its home is the Capitol Rotunda, an obviously full maternal breast, complete with erect nipple on top, and with a statue of the war goddess Freedom on the very top, holding her war sword and her victory wreath. If Presidents don’t take nations to war when the people and Congress ask him to, he is shot—as John F. Kennedy was shot after so many people were furious with him for not giving the U.S. the war it was expecting in Cuba, and after he was so aware of Dallas citizens wanting his death that he made a home movie just before going there, “just for fun,” of himself being assassinated.131 Reactionaries don’t just oppose Progressives; they demonize them, as “weak”, “appeasers”, and “grovelers in chief,” as Obama was recently called.132 The grandiosity that precedes wars is experienced as a moral crusade against the vile sinfulness of too-liberal insider groups; as Koonz put it in her book The Nazi Conscience: “The road to Auschwitz was paved with righteousness,”133 the righteousness of the Punishing Parents embedded in their amygdalas.
DEMOCRACIES AND WAR
Although “virtually every great power has gone on the warpath during the initial phase of its entry into democracy,” fully liberal democratic nations never have started wars with other democratic nations,139 since to become a fully liberal democratic nation the bulk of the families must have made the transition into the socializing mode of childrearing, with most families having evolved beyond infanticide, swaddling, wetnursing, and beating. The majority of even democratic nations’ families still dominate and hit their children, of course, so democratic nations continue to go to war as often as other countries, but choose non-democracies as their enemies (particularly ones that can be made into colonies) winning most of the wars they start.140 Statistical analyses of wars reveal “despite the fact that mature democracies do not fight each other, democracies are about as likely to fight wars as non-democracies.141 Most wars after democratization are wars of “ethnic cleansing,” like the long war that killed over ten million American Indians that Jefferson called “justified extermination.”142 As Mann puts it, “Murderous cleansing is modern, because it is the dark side of democracy.”143 As both fathers and mothers raise their children, before they are toilet trained they regularly call them “dirty,” and the cleansing of ethnic groups becomes one of the main tasks of civil wars as they fuse with their “cleansing” parents and punish their Bad Selves.
Fig. 10-2: Progress Begins in the Nineteenth Century
DEMOCRATIZATION REQUIRES CLEANSING TERROR AND WAR
Fig. 10-3: The Motherland Hates the Freedom of Her New Citizens
As everyone began to experience more freedoms, the nation began to be represented as a goddess, Marienne, la nation, and republicans were said to “live only for the mother country, as soon as he has no more mother country, he is no longer.”147 This fusion with the Motherland, patriotism, made all progress and all individual freedoms terribly frightening, and was experienced as growth panic. Mommy hated my freedom. Mommy had told me she was the boss, that I was only interested in my needs, not hers. From the very beginning, the French Revolution imagined angry, dangerous women populating the nation, as when Marie-Antoinette, a rather sweet-natured young woman, was deemed “a vampire who sucks the blood of the French” so they had to chop off her head. The Terror of the Revolution not only had no rational purpose, it was accomplished by putting the guillotines in front of statues of Marienne on her maternal throne holding the club with which mothers usually hit their children. As revolutionaries chopped off heads they paraded them on pikes that again represented the mother’s beating sticks. Men began to deny all the rights of women that had begun materializing. The Convention outlawed all women’s associations and began to guillotine all women who asked for voting rights. “The nation as mother, La Nation, had no feminine qualities; it was not a threatening feminizing force [it was] a masculine mother, a father capable of giving birth.”148
Democratization for every nation involves revolutionary violence and war. As the new freedoms of the Revolution began to be acted upon in the Assembly, in-group and out-group splitting began, with gratuitous accusations by Girondins and Jacobins that the other side was full of “traitors who were about to restore the monarchy.”149 Both Revolutionary violence and foreign wars were precipitated by this splitting into in-groups and out-groups. The goal was solely slaughter: “The guillotine is hungry,” said a member of the Assembly, “It’s ages since she had something to eat.”150 Madame Roland described the Revolutionary killing expeditions: “Women brutally raped before being torn to pieces, guts cut out and worn as ribbons, human flesh eaten dripping with blood.”151 The same splitting created France’s external enemies, as their serotonin levels plunged and their mirror neurons turned off so that empathy disappeared.152 Frenchmen became clinically paranoid toward neighboring nations, turning down any attempts to appease them, and instead imagined that foreigners “might invade in order to destroy the Revolution.”153 By the time Napoleon came to power and made war routine, France was already weary from a decade of wars, which used nationalist appeals to foster loyalty but whose causes were in fact solely internal and self-destructive. Historians agree that “there was no question of any threat from the outside.”154 When Brissot declared that he “cannot be at ease until Europe, and all of Europe, is in flames,”155 he spoke for citizens needing to become martyrs in order to punish their inner Bad Selves. The ideal of “sacrifice for the nation” became the central focus of French wars. As Michelet said, “Sacrifice for the nation is our political ideal.”156 “Not one Paris newspaper voiced opposition to the escalation of war fever in January 1792. Not one Paris newspaper objected when Napoleon declared war on Austria in April 1892.157 Napoleon himself was all his life depressed and suicidal, writing in his diary entries like this: “Life is a burden to me because I taste no pleasure and all is pain…Since die I must, is it not just as well to kill myself?”158
The actual words that the French used as they went to war were those their Angry Mother had used as she had to clean them of their urine and feces: war was necessary “to cleanse the soil of liberty of this refuse…They should be given strong republican medicine: a purge, a vomit and an enema.”159 French soldiers “routinely raped and mutilated women and children…forcing them to kneel in front of a large pit they had dug; they were then shot so as to tumble into their own grave”160 as a preliminary to the Nazi Holocaust. Napoleon, like Hitler, aimed only at mass extermination, humiliating and provoking one nation after another into battle and telling Metternich that “a man like me does not give a shit about the lives of a million men.”161
Napoleon’s 12 years of wars with a series of coalitions of European states so overextended French armies that when they invaded Russia they were finally defeated at the Battle of Waterloo in 1815. Suicidal French wars were over for a while. Napoleon himself tried to commit suicide again after Waterloo by poisoning himself. Counting both military and civilian deaths, over two million of Europeans in fact were victims of the suicidal growth panic of democratization.162 After the French Revolution, nation after nation democratized around the world, each time producing the sacrificial growth panic of internal Terror and external war. The past two centuries have been filled with hundreds of totally unnecessary, suicidal civil and external wars by democratizing nations around the world by hundreds of leaders who repeated Napoleon’s dicta that “Troops are made to get killed.”163 In the next chapter, we will examine the global wars of the twentieth century and reveal how each of them was triggered by the growth panic of democratization, by national grandiosity and by the self-destructive internal alters that forced citizens to re-enact their abusive childhoods.
1 Christian Lackner, “Europe: Hierarchical Super State or Participative Network.” The Journal of Psychohistory 37(2010): forthcoming.
2 Lloyd deMause, Foundations of Psychohistory. New York: Creative Roots, 1982, pp. 26-34, 117-123.
3 Ibid, p. 33.
4 Bogna W. Lorence, “Parents and Children I Eighteenth-Century Europe.” History of Childhood Quarterly: The Journal of Psychohistory 2(1974): 11.
5 Volker Hunecke, “Children in Nineteenth-Century Milan and the European Context.” In John Henderson, Ed. Poor Women and Children in the European Past. New York: Routledge, 1994, p. 125.
6 S. Ryan Johansson, “Centuries of Childhood/ Centuries of Parenting.” Journal of Family History 12(1987): 358.
7 Lloyd deMause, The Emotional Life of Nations. New York: Karnac Publishing, 2002, p. 304.
8 Ibid., p. 305.
9 Daniel Beekman, The Mechanical Baby: A Popular History of the Theory and Practice of Child Raising. Westport: Lawrence Hill, 1977, p. 47.
10 Adrienne Rich, Of Woman Born: Motherhood as Experience and Institution. New York: W. W. Norton & Co., 1986, p. 259.
11 Peter N. Stearns, Childhood in World History. New York: Routledge, 2006, p. 60.
12 Louis Adamic, Cradle of Life: The Story of One Man’s Beginnings. New York: Harper, 1936, pp. 45, 48.
13 Lloyd deMause, The Emotional Life of Nations, pp. 319-320; Elisabeth Badinter, Mother Love: Myth and Reality—Motherhood in Modern History. New York: Macmillan Publishing, 2981, pp. x, 94.
14 Steven Ozment, When Fathers Ruled: Family Life in Reformation Europe. Cambridge: Harvard University Press, 1985, p. 118.
15 Elisabeth Badinter, Mother Love, p. x.
17 George Anne Bellamy, An Apology for the Life of George Anne Bellamy. London: London Press, 1785, p. 26.
18 Edmund Leites, The Puritan Conscience and Modern Sexuality. New Haven: Yale University Press, 1986, p. 45; Merry E. Wiesner-Hanks, Women and Gender in Early Modern Europe: Third Ed., Cambridge: Cambridge University Press, 2008, p. 3.
19 William Kessen, “Rousseau’s Children.” Daedalus 107(1978): 155.
20 Lloyd deMause, The Emotional Life of Nations, pp. 346-7.
21 Bogna W. Lorence, “Parents and Children in Eighteenth-Century Europe.” History of Childhood Quarterly: The Journal of Psychohistory 2(1974): 6.
22 Hippolyte Taine, The Ancient Regime. New York: Peter Smith, 1931, p. 136.
23 Stephanie Coontz, Marriage, a History: From Obedience to Intimacy: How Love Conquered Marriage. New York: Viking, 2005, p. 171.
24 Marylynn Salmon, “The Cultural Significance of Breast-Feeding and Infant Care in Early Modern England and America.” In Rima D. Apple, Ed., Mothers & Motherhood: Readings in American History. Columbus: Ohio State University Press, 1997, p. 15.
25 Lloyd deMause, Foundations of Psychohistory, p. 110.
26 Lloyd deMause, “The Evolution of Childrearing.” The Journal of Psychohistory 28 (2001): 403.
27 Elisabeth Badinter, Mother Love, p. 173.
28 Hippolyte Taine, The Ancient Regime, p. 136.
29 Bogna W. Lorence, “Parents and Children in Eighteenth-Century Europe.” History of Childhood Quarterly: The Journal of Psychohistory 2(1974): 1.
30 Lloyd deMause, The Emotional Life of Nations, p. 329; Dan Dervin, “Childrearing in Central and Eastern Europe.” The Journal of Psychohistory 35(2008): 225; Daniel Rancour-Laferriere, “Russians React to the Idea of Russian Masochism.” The Journal of Psychohistory 27(1999): 63; Olga Shutova, “Post-Soviet Belarus: Childhood, Family and Identity.” The Journal of Psychohistory 27(1999): 11.
31 Gerald Strauss, Luther’s House of Learning: Introduction of the Young in the German Reformation. Baltimore: Johns Hopkins University Press, 1978, p. 97.
32 Elisabeth Badinter, Mother Love, pp. 117, 172; Edward Shorter, The Making of the Modern Family. New York: Basic Books, 1977, p. 197-198.
33 Elisabeth Badinter, Mother Love, p. 172.
34 Lois L. Huneycutt, “Public Lives, Private Ties: Royal Mothers in England and Scotland, 1070-1204.” In John Carmi Parsons, Ed., Medieval Mothering. New York: Garland Publishing, 1996, p. 296.
35 Edward Shorter, The Making of the Modern Family. New York: Basic Books, 1977, p. 56.
36 Albertine Adrienne Necker, Progressive Education, Commencing with the Infant. Boston: W. D. Ticknor, 1835, p. 180.
37 CNN, Feb. 10, 2010.
38 Stephen M. Frank, Life With Father: Parenthood and Masculinity in the Nineteenth-Century American North. Baltimore: Johns Hopkins University Press, 1998, p. 37.
39 Michael Kimmel, Manhood in America: A Cultural History. New York: The Free Press, 1996.
40 Galph Greenson, “Why Men Like War.” In R. Nemiroff et al., Eds., On Loving, Hating and Living Well. New York: International Universities Press, 1992, p. 127.
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50 Ibid., pp. 220-223.
51 Ibid., p. 329.
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59 Philip Greven, The Protestant Temperament: Patterns of Child-Rearing, Religious Experience, and the Self in Early America. Chicago: The University of Chicago Press, 1977, p. 53.
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61 Tracy L. Dietz, “Disciplining Children: Characteristics Associated With the Use of Corporal Punishment.” Child Abuse & Neglect 24(2000): 1529, 1536.
62 Colin Heywood, A History of Childhood: Children and Childhood in the West from Medieval to Modern Times. Cambridge: Polity Press, 2001, p. 117.
63 Alan Valentine, Ed. Fathers to Sons: Advice Without Consent. Norman: University of Oklahoma Press, 1963, p. xxx.
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65 Lloyd deMause, The Emotional Life of Nations, p. 419-421.
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68 Philip Greven, The Protestant Temperament, p. 127.
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72 Hugh Cunningham, Children and Childhood in Western Society since 1500, London: Longman, 1995, p. 157.
73 Glen Davis, Childhood and History in America. New York: The Psychohistory Press, 1976, p. 54.
74 Ibid., pp. 142-143.
75 Anne Campbell, Men, Women and Aggression. New York: Basic Books, 1991, p. 26.
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77 Beatrice Webb, My Apprenticeship. London: Longmans, Green & Co., 1926, p. 321.
78 Lloyd deMause, “What the British Can Do To End Child Abuse.” The Journal of Psychohistory 34(2006): 4.
79 Lloyd deMause, “The Universality of Incest.” The Journal of Psychohistory 19(1991): 134-8.
80 Ibid. pp. 142-157.
81 Philippe Aries, Centuries of Childhood: A Social History of Family Life. London: Jonathan Cape, 1962, p. 64.
82 Ibid., p. 101.
83 Lloyd deMause, The Emotional Life of Nations, p. 358; Kenneth Alan Adams, “The Familial Origins of Japanese Child Abuse.” The Journal of Psychohistory 33(2005):157-196.
84 Stephanie Coontz, Marriage, a History, p. 172.
85 Naomi Wolf, The Beauty Myth. New York: Harper Perennial, 1991, p. 161.
86 Jacques Rosslaud, “Prostitution, Youth and Society in the Towns of Southeastern France in the Fifteenth Century.” In Robert Forster and Orest Ranum, Eds., Deviants and the Abandoned in French Society. Baltimore: Johns Hopkins Press, 1978, p. 6.
87 Elizabeth W. Marvick, “Childhood History and the Decisions of State: The Case of Louis XIII.” History of Childhood Quarterly: The Journal of Psychohistory 2(1974): 150.
88 Philippe Aries, Centuries of Childhood, pp. 163, 167.
89 Lloyd deMause, The Emotional Life of Nations, p. 378.
90 Lloyd deMause, “The Evolution of Childrearing,” p. 441.
91 A Woman Physician and Surgeon, Unmasked, or, The Science of Immorality. Philadelphia: William H. Boyd, 1878, p. 88.
92 Anna Clark, Women’s Silence, Men’s Violence: Sexual Assault in England, 1770-1845. London: Pandora Press, 1987, p. 44.
93 Lloyd deMause, “The Universality of Incest.” The Journal of Psychohistory 19(1981): 131-2.
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95 Karen J. Taylor, “Venereal Disease in Nineteenth-Century Children.” The Journal of Psychohistory 12(1985):431-463.
96 Lloyd deMause, Foundations of Psychohistory, p. 58.
97 Norman Brown, Love’s Body. New York: Random House, 1966, p. 132.
98 Lawrence Stone, The Family, Sex and Marriage in England: 150-1800. London: Harper & Row, 1977, p. 146.
99 Bertrand de Jouvenel, Sovereignty: An Inquiry Into the Political Good. Indianapolis: Liberty Fund, 1957, p. 213.
100 Sheri Berman, “From the Sun King to Karzai.” Foreign Affairs 89(2010): 3.
101 Benedict Anderson, Imagined Communities: Reflections on the Origin an Spread of Nationalism. London: Verso, 1983.
102 Reinhard Bendix, Kings or People: Power and the Mandate to Rule. Berkeley: University of California Press,1978, p. 2.
103 Ernst H. Kantorowicz, The King’s Two Bodies: A Study in Mediaeval Political Theology. Princeton: Princeton University Press, 1981, p. 11.
104 Michael E. McCullough, Beyond Revenge: The Evolution of the Forgiveness Instinct. San Francisco: Jossey-Bass, 2008, p. 29.
105 Deborah Willis, Malevolent Nurture: Witch-Hunting and Maternal Power in Early Modern England. Ithaca: Cornell University Press, 1995, p. 201.
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107 Lyndal Roper, Witch Craze: Terror and Fantasy in Baroque Germany. New Haven: Yale University Press, 2004, p. 9.
108 Carlo Ginzburg, The Night Battles: Witchcraft & Agrarian Cults in the Sixteenth & Seventeenth Centuries. New York: Penguin Books, 1985, p. 13.
109 Frank P. Bachman, Great Inventors and Their Inventions. New York: American Book Co., 1918, p. 1.
110 Azar Gat, War in Human Civilization. Oxford: Oxford University Press, 1006, p. 457.
111 John A. Vasquez, What Do We Know About War? London: Rowman & Littlefield, 2000, p. 25.
112 Ibid., p. 58.
113 Ibid., p. 30.
114 Raimo Vayrynen, “Economic Fluctuations, Military Expenditures and Warfare in International Relations.” In Robert K. Schaeffer, Ed., War in the World-System. New York: Greenwood Press, 1989, p. 121.
115 George Modelski, Long Cycles in World Politics. Seattle: University of Washington Press, 1987, pp. 48, 71, 86.
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117 Michael Mann, The Dark Side of Democracy: Explaining Ethnic Cleansing. Cambridge: Cambridge University Press, 2005, p. 466.
118 Raimo Vayryen, “Economic Fluctuations,” p. 167.
119 Lloyd deMause, The Emotional Life of Nations, p. 174.
120 John A. Vasquez, What Do We Know About War?, p. 357.
121 Lawrence H. Keeley, War Before Civilization. New York: Oxford University Press, 1996, p. 33.
122 Lloyd deMause, The Emotional Life of Nations, pp. 158-181.
123 Carmen M. Reinhart and Kenneth S. Rogoff, This Time is Different: Eight Centuries of Financial Folly. Princeton: Princeton University Press, 2009.
124 Carlton J. H. Hayes, Nationalism: A Religion. New York: Macmillan, 1960, p. 54.
125 Ibid., p. 167.
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127 Editorial, In These Times, October 13, 2003, p. 9.
128 George Lakoff, The Political Mind: A Cognitive Scientist’s Guide to Your Brain and Its Politics. New York: Penguin Books, 2009, p. xiv; Nikki Grimes, Barack Obama: Son of Promise, Child of Hope. New York: Simon & Schuster, 2008.
129 John McCain, Faith of My Fathers: A Family Memoir. New York: Harper, 2008, p. 99.
130 Ibid., p. 100.
131 Lloyd deMause, The Emotional Life of Nations, pp. 6-8.
132 Charles A. Kupchan, “Enemies Into Friends: How the United States Can Court Its Adversaries” Foreign Affairs 89(2010): 121.
133 Claudia Koonz, The Nazi Conscience. Cambridge: Harvard University Press, 2003, p. 3.
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135 Edward D. Mansfield and Jack Snyder, Electing to Fight: Why Emerging Democracies Go To War. Cambridge: MIT Press, 2005, p. 13.
136 Jack Snyder, From Voting to Violence: Democratization and Nationalist Conflict. New York: W. W. Norton & Co., 2000, p. 29.
137 Ibid. p.29.
138 Edward D. Mansfield and Jack Snyder, “Democratization and the Danger of War.” International Security 20(1995): 5-25.
139 Ibid., pp. 6, 8.
140 Dan Reiter and Allan C. Stam, Democracies at War. Princeton: Princeton University Press, 2002, pp. 19, 198; Hilde Ravlo et al, “Colonial War and the Democratic Peace.” Journal of Conflict Resolution. 47(2003): 521.
141 Edward D. Mansfield and Jack Snyder, Electing to Fight, p. 28.
142 Michael Mann, The Dark Side of Democracy, p. ix.
143 Ibid, p. 2.
144 Suzanne Desan, The Family on Trial in Revolutionary France. Berkeley: University of California Press, 2004; Eli Sagan, Citizens & Cannibals, p. 106; Lloyd deMause, The Emotional Life of Nations, p. 424-426.
145 Elisabeth Badinter, Mother Love: Myth and Reality, p. 27.
146 Tom Nairn, Faces of Nationalism: Janus Revisited. London: Verso, p. 3.
147 Joan B. Landes, Visualizing the Nation: Gender, Representation, and Revolution in Eighteenth-Century France. Ithaca: Cornell University Press, 2001, p. 140.
148 Lynn Hunt, The Family Romance of the French Revolution. Berkeley: University of California Press, 1992, p. 99.
149 Eli Sagan, Citizens and Cannibals, p. 112.
150 Ibid., p. 349.
151 Richard Cobb, Voices of the French Revolution. Topsfield: Salem House Publishers, 1988, p. 158.
152 H. M. van Praag, et al, Eds. Violence and Suicidality: Perspectives in Clinical and Psychobiological Research. New York: Bruner/Mazel, 1990, pp. 218-241.
153 Ibid., p. 330.
154 Robert I. Rotberg and Theodore K. Rabb, The Origin and Prevention of Major Wars. Cambridge: Cambridge University Press, 1988, p. 207.
155 Adam Zamoyski, Holy Madness: Romantics, Patriots and Revolutionaries—1776-1871. London: Weidenfeld & Nicolson, 1999, p. 78.
156 Ivan Sternski, Contesting Sacrifice: Religion, Nationalism, and Social Thought in France. Chicago: The University of Chicago Press, 2002, p. 37
157 Edward D. Mansfield and Jack Snyder, Electing To Fight: Why Emerging Democracies Go To War. Cambridge: MIT Press, 2005, p. 179.
158 Gwyne Dyer, War: The Lethal Custom. New York: Carroll & Graf Publishers, 2004, p. 23.
159 Eli Sagan, Citizens & Cannibals, p. 476.
160 Simon Schama, Citizens: A Chronicle of the French Revolution. New York: Alfred A. Knopf, 1989, p. 791.
161 David A. Bell, The First Total War: Napoleon’s Europe and the Birth of Warfare as We Know It. Boston: Houghton Mifflin Co., 2007, p. 251.
162 Jim Powell, Wilson’s War. New York: Crown Forum, 2005, p. 21.
163 Gwynne Dyer, War: The Lethal Custom, p. 231.